Sexual Disorders: Sexual Anxiety and Male Sexual Disorders

Sexual Disorders: Sexual Anxiety and Male Sexual Disorders

Sexual Disorders

Relatively frequent, male sexual disorders include all dysfunctions that can affect the quality of erection or the intensity of sexual desire. Often taboo, sexual disorders in humans can yet be the subject of effective medical or psychotherapeutic care. In the long term, an unsolved sexual dysfunction can have a negative impact on the couple's life.

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Male sexual disorders

Sexual disorders affect a very large part of the male population, even if they are most often benign. Male sexual disorders involve erection, ejaculation or desire.

It may be sexual breakdown, impotence, premature ejaculation, or the opposite of priapism, an ejaculation or anorgasmia. The libido of men also knows variations.

All these disorders can be corrected, most often by consulting psychologists, psychotherapists or sexologist.

My spouse does not want me anymore

Desire and love are two very different and non-superimposable things. Of course, the ideal is to desire the person we love. But one can very well feel desire for someone without loving him. Or to love someone without having desire. Indeed, desire is not at all a proof of love. Thus, your husband may very well love you and suffer a moment of decline in sexual desire.

The drop in desire can come from a medical problem. The first element that can decrease desire is drugs. So, if your husband is taking any treatment, you need to look closely for possible side effects, and eventually ask your doctor to change your treatment if it is feasible. Hormonal abnormalities, lowering of testosterone, increase of prolactin, are also causes of desire blockage. Various health problems can also reduce the desire, for example, an autoimmune disease, or any illness resulting in intense fatigue. Depression is also a common cause of low libido. When morally, we go wrong, sexual desire is often the first element reached. So, it is important to ask yourself: does your husband go through a moment of depression?

Negative feelings can decrease sexual desire. And in a man, fear is one of the negative feelings most often involved. Often, it is the fear of not having a good erection. When a man fears the breakdown, he tends to avoid sex. And to affirm that he has no desire, so as not to be confronted with a failure. He may even end up feeling no desire so much he feels anxious about seeming ridiculous. And other negative feelings can be at stake: sadness, anguish, jealousy, anger, hate ... It can be emotions related to work, family life, children, etc. At the level of the couple, the feeling most often at stake to block the desire is resentment. If your husband blames you for one reason or another, his desire may be annihilated.

Sexual Disorders

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How to overcome sexual anxiety

Start by encouraging your husband to see his doctor for a checkup and to talk about this desire disorder. The doctor will examine it and ask about its general condition and its medications, look for signs of depression and prescribe a balance sheet with a hormonal dosage, a diabetes screening ... This is the first thing to do and it is often the most effective way to open the dialogue with his man. Indeed, it is a technical approach and your husband will accept a health check more easily than a personal challenge.

Then, ask him clearly this question: "In fact, would you like me for something? For, sometimes, in a couple, we may have had an attitude or behavior that hurt the other without our necessarily being aware of it. And in this case, it is necessary to burst the abscess so that the desire returns.

And then, offer your husband to do non-sexual hugs. He has no desire, ok, but to take each other in the arms naked against each other, to massage each other, take a shower together, all these moments of intimacy are always pleasant. And they allow to maintain a physical proximity making easier the reactivation of the sexuality.

Performance-related sexual anxiety can affect men as well as women and can involve a very wide spectrum of symptoms, from fear of sexual intercourse (pregnancy, or feeling shameful) to a very critical assessment of his own performance (fear of being ugly or not enough male or female, etc.) When you feel that such anxious thoughts are related to your sexual intercourse or your performance, your body releases stress hormones that interfere with your libido and your performance. The failures that may ensue will cause you even more anxiety and you will find yourself trapped in a vicious circle. By knowing how to break the vicious circle of sexual anxiety, you and your partner will come to have a healthier sex life and a happier relationship. here are some solutions:

Discuss your anxieties with your partner. Let your partner know how you feel and work together to find a solution to these problems.

Let yourself be vulnerable. When you realize that your partner does not have a poorer opinion of you when you are vulnerable, you will start to have more confidence in your relationship and more confidence in yourself.

Trust your partner. Some health professionals believe that sexual performance anxiety is a result of more general social anxiety. All thoughts generally associated with anxiety about sexual performance, for example if you feel complex or not masculine or feminine enough, are based on common fear of the judgment of others. Even if it will take time and effort, a couple therapy or alone can help you forget your fears and trust your partner.

Be sure of yourself. Focus on the things you love about your character and your body. If you feel complexed because of your weight, appearance, or other physical traits, specialists will always tell you that the first step in overcoming self-esteem issues is to accept yourself as you are; to say a beautiful human being who deserves to be happy.

You are more than a sexual creature. Think of all the qualities you have and that your partner sees in you and feel happy with these qualities.

Remember who you are. One of the common causes of sexual anxiety is guilt or embarrassment related to your sexual fantasies. The fear comes from the fact that you think that these fantasies define a person and that she will sooner or later put them into practice in real life. Experts agree that fantasy about an act or even a particular person does not mean that there is a real desire to realize that fantasy in real life.

Be open and honest with your partner about what you like and do not like and ask them to do the same with you.

You have the right to have fantasies and sexual desires. You and your partner can achieve your fantasies safely, for example by playing roles or using other methods.

Change the way you have sex

Breathe deeply before you start. Take a moment to focus on your breathing before having sex. Use this moment to eliminate any thoughts in your mind that could distract you and cause anxiety. If you cannot get rid of your stress, try having sex on a day when you feel less stressed. You will only increase your anxiety and stress by trying and failing [10].

It may be helpful to meditate before having sex because meditation is known to relieve anxiety.  

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